Friday

Double the mum, double the weirdness

Today I start the day worrying about two women, both of whom are my mothers, one whose house key is on my key chain, the other I hesitate to call.

It's been longer than normal since I've heard via email from my bio mom. I've mailed twice this week to ask if all is well and to say it's difficult not to worry something is wrong, could she just send a quick note to say she's ok. Having experienced sudden death of loved ones twice, I know shit happens. I wait for it to happen.

Last night I received a call from an old family friend of my parents. It had been so long since I'd talked to her that she started out the conversation with, "you likely don't remember me". Of course I do remember, although I was very surprised to hear from her.

She called because she was worried something was wrong with my mom and just wanted to check in with me to see if my mom was starting to experience dementia or was perhaps over medicating herself. That the last few times they'd talked my mom hadn't seemed herself some of the time, repeating herself and forgetting previous conversations.

I really appreciated the call and we had a good talk. It wasn't the old friend's intent to worry me and although I was truly thankful for the call, it was striking to be contacted out of the blue and hear an old friend's perception of my mom's behavior. In a way it felt validating, but in another it felt a little ominous.

If something has happened to my bio mom, it will be strange. I barely know her, her family knows nothing of me. To date she's not told me who my bio father is which is something I want to know. I'd have decisions to make regarding revealing myself, an action I cannot take lightly.

I foresee looming decisions to make regarding my mom and her care and well being. I can't help but wonder how the future will play out, or if the future is now.

Strange times these.

6 comments:

  1. I hope you hear from your silent mom soon, and that everything is ok with your other mom. How hard the unknowing is ~ and to have to deal with two different kinds of unknowing with two different kinds of moms...

    Sending you some positive vibes to get you through all of this!

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  2. I hope everything is OK, Campbell.

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  3. That must be so difficult to have so many unanswered questions. I hope you get the answers.

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  4. I hope you hear something soon, Campbell. And I hope your Mom is OK.

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  5. Thanks you guys. You're all very kind.

    I did call bio mom last night and am about to post on it.

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  6. http://campbellscoup.blogspot.com/2011/06/husha-husha-we-all-fall-down.html

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