tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post6811156427699339189..comments2023-04-13T02:42:31.179-07:00Comments on And other ideas and thoughts ....: When was the last time you were around a day old baby?Campbellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13600505149020853906noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-1212347841446424412012-07-19T21:19:43.315-07:002012-07-19T21:19:43.315-07:00Forget research. Campbell spent twenty minutes wi...Forget research. Campbell spent twenty minutes with a newborn. She's the expert.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-55310179812031057962012-07-05T19:15:12.193-07:002012-07-05T19:15:12.193-07:00Congratulations on the new addition! I've defi...Congratulations on the new addition! I've definitely never been around a baby that young.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-40845388621086223432012-06-29T07:09:36.102-07:002012-06-29T07:09:36.102-07:00"It is so beautiful witnessing a much wanted ..."It is so beautiful witnessing a much wanted baby become familiar with the world and her good, caring parents." And that was beautifully expressed. Thank you.Whoevernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-27670099060382520322012-06-26T17:08:25.188-07:002012-06-26T17:08:25.188-07:00Thanks so much Kris, what an important comment. Ho...Thanks so much Kris, what an important comment. Hopefully people read it.<br /><br />It seems it's impossible to really prepare people for their first parenting experience so at least we can try and be there for them when the reality of a newborn sets in. It can be pretty easy for an odd few but for the majority, it's crazy days (and nights!) those first couple weeks. I just got off the phone with my stepson and I can just hear it in his voice, that newborn shell shock that most experience. I told him to just remember it won't always be this way lol. <br /><br />The dogged determination to breastfeed no matter what can be so dangerous and I just don't get why it has to be that way. Why cant we easily encourage and educate without such extreme pressure? I dunno. <br /><br />Your daughter's beginnings are heartbreaking and it's so great she's doing so well now socially. Confidence is so important, as is being attached to a family.Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13600505149020853906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-51154028618819731052012-06-26T09:07:35.424-07:002012-06-26T09:07:35.424-07:00Congrats! I am not going to pretend I know what n...Congrats! I am not going to pretend I know what newborns know. This is another one of "those" topics where everyone seems to have an opinion but I don't know how anyone really "knows". My second and third children seemed to be barely awake for at least 3-4 days.<br /><br />It sure is true babies don't automatically know to nurse. My first never really got the hang of it and was almost admitted to the hospital b/c he was so underweight. I had stupidly listened to a lactation consultant who told me the worst thing I could do was give him a bottle. So I stubbornly kept trying to breastfeed till the pediatrician told me if he didn't take a bottle in the office he was going to admitted to the hospital. He drank that bottle like a champ and we never looked back. We still bonded, even though he was mostly bottle-fed despite what I had been told. <br /><br />We brought our daughter home at 15 months. She was healthy but had obviously been neglected since at over a year she had never been given the opportunity to walk or to eat solid foods. She couldn't do either. She slept through the night no problem and when awake was desperately clingy. She would bite my other kids if they tried to come near me. She had to held constantly and demanded constant attention. If she didn't get attention, she would pull her hair out and bang her head against the floor. It was a very difficult time for her and for us. We got through it with some help from a counselor who made some fantastic suggestions. She is now quite attached to us and very confident with lots of friends. She is behind academically and I do think being neglected that first year had an impact on her. However, we will never really know what "could have been." Have to move forward and do the best we can under the circumstances.Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14934033119198457032noreply@blogger.com