tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post6605616745515209703..comments2023-04-13T02:42:31.179-07:00Comments on And other ideas and thoughts ....: Sunny sky for our fair weather daughterCampbellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13600505149020853906noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-38239852655272227302010-09-12T13:36:44.768-07:002010-09-12T13:36:44.768-07:00Hmm..Anonymous
Not sure which AP you're refer...Hmm..Anonymous<br /><br />Not sure which AP you're referring to, but, as far as MY attitude goes, it's pretty much what you see. I don't hold back too much in the way of attitude here on my blog. I will admit I do hold back (now) quite a bit when reading other people's blogs and I'm tempted to comment.Campbellhttp://campbellscoup.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-9215996653105331312010-09-12T12:02:30.339-07:002010-09-12T12:02:30.339-07:00"Poor me" whine? Wow, very compassionate..."Poor me" whine? Wow, very compassionate. I think different adoptee voices are necessary, but if you're going to denigrate certain ones, then you're not really interested in listening at all. This is why when I read adoptee blogs like Campell's I'm never quite sure if that is their attitude, or whether they're holding things back because they don't want to be accused of "whining" or being "angry." Until people like you change their attitude and are open and accepting of all views, I'll always wonder. Thankfully there are APs who are more open and understanding out there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-83175999844596676712010-08-21T06:21:19.132-07:002010-08-21T06:21:19.132-07:00Good luck! Hope it goes well.Good luck! Hope it goes well.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08073625813017871573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-79149146572391434682010-08-20T13:23:35.928-07:002010-08-20T13:23:35.928-07:00Perhaps...
Thanks Kris : )Perhaps...<br /><br />Thanks Kris : )Campbellhttp://campbellscoup.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-52483804148178536442010-08-20T08:19:58.688-07:002010-08-20T08:19:58.688-07:00I am so happy for you Campbell, this is exciting n...I am so happy for you Campbell, this is exciting news! I hope you get all you want out of the reunion. <br /><br />I don't think you are dishonest, uninteresting or boring. Since you mostly blog about your feelings on things, how can someone accuse you of being dishonest? (Because you don't agree with them perhaps??)Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14934033119198457032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-74130906315344988282010-08-19T16:46:14.986-07:002010-08-19T16:46:14.986-07:00Thanks Alex, hopefully the big things are good thi...Thanks Alex, hopefully the big things are good things, eh? I think it'll all be fine : )<br /><br />Thank you maryanne, for your kind words and for your honesty, always. I'll be very lucky if my bio mom thinks anything at all like you do and your friend's advice is perfect.Campbellhttp://campbellscoup.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-9157832747354750702010-08-19T16:37:26.038-07:002010-08-19T16:37:26.038-07:00I am so happy for you and love your honest attitud...I am so happy for you and love your honest attitude, and no, you are not boring. What is boring on adoption blogs is the same old "poor me" whine said over and over in slightly different words. <br /><br />I think my son thinks like you somewhat, and he is a fine person. I find a lot of instant emotion in reunion overblown and phony. The real thing takes time, because as you say you start as strangers. And yes, communication can misfire through nobody's fault. Emails can get lost, even more so snail mail. I had a brief fright when a card I sent was returned, no such address. I could have panicked but instead emailed my son and he said his mail was screwed up and things got lost all the time. End of drama.<br /><br />The best advice my friend in a very good reunion gave me was "remember, it is not always about you", and remember to breathe:-)maryannenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-73781955605920482792010-08-19T16:08:31.602-07:002010-08-19T16:08:31.602-07:00Big things Campbell...bigs things. Good luck with...Big things Campbell...bigs things. Good luck with it all!!Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10463243543517574653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-56886224192177853562010-08-19T15:45:39.424-07:002010-08-19T15:45:39.424-07:00Thanks Elaine, that's kind of you.
Your late...Thanks Elaine, that's kind of you. <br /><br />Your latest hide n seek post was great, by the way. I resisted commenting then and don't want to say the wrong thing now, but it was really very good.Campbellhttp://campbellscoup.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-29095091278252082442010-08-19T15:37:36.076-07:002010-08-19T15:37:36.076-07:00That is so exciting! Congratulations -- that'...That is so exciting! Congratulations -- that's a big step... very happy for you :)ElainePhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00081341759492161794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-32097231125141138182010-08-19T15:02:51.832-07:002010-08-19T15:02:51.832-07:00O Solo ... the honesty business I couldn't res...O Solo ... the honesty business I couldn't resist because of a quasi review of me and my blog I read recently. The person basically said I wasn't honest, interesting, or fun. The boring I can handle, but implying I'm not honest just pisses me off.<br /><br />I agree it can be a clash of expectations, really of perfect strangers. It's a shame about the veto. If people could just give each other a few minutes at least...but then, for some, I guess that wouldn't be enough anyway.<br /><br />Lia, it IS always easier to be a fan of what we want to hear. No doubt! Something though you may not want to hear is that I really don't think at this point there is "love", not in the sense I've ever experienced it. <br /><br />I think it's more a matter of curiosity, for sure on my part, and for her a matter of just doing the right thing in the capacity that she can do it.Campbellhttp://campbellscoup.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-82765807066276179712010-08-19T14:26:30.570-07:002010-08-19T14:26:30.570-07:00Ooh, well, how exciting! I think I'm a fan of ...Ooh, well, how exciting! I think I'm a fan of your honesty mostly because you're saying things I want to hear, so I wouldn't take my approval too seriously. I do hope you see her. I am really impressed by your compassion towards her - there really doesn't seem to be any anger, whereas all sorts of adoptees would be FURIOUS at pretty much everything happening here: that nobody knows about you, that she's not forthcoming with affection or communication. But it's like, there's probably so much stuff going on with her, first and foremost the pain that comes with placement. I know she never stopped loving you. I know that. You know that. But it IS complicated, a complicated love, and your recognition of that is a breath of fresh air.Lia - not Junohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06676978831059304596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-30132490034743151212010-08-19T13:32:10.865-07:002010-08-19T13:32:10.865-07:00What strikes me in reading the stories of others i...What strikes me in reading the stories of others is not so much lack of honesty but clash of expectations. Or the idea that somebody might not be entitled to feel some way. Somebody's too pushy; somebody shouldn't hold back--okay, one guy practically said, "why should she NOT have an interest in knowing us?" Conversely, I know someone who on the passage of the new records law ran right out and slapped a veto on her n-mom. That was her sum reaction. End of story. "Don't bother me." Could totally break someone's heart and maybe it will. I guess that meeting was stopped before it could ever take place. <br /><br />Very tricky territory. I liked how you covered the idea of simple miscommunication getting blown up in our minds as something worse than it really is. To be honest, it doesn't sound like your n-mom is going to roll up in your driveway and smother you with kisses any time soon . . . also sounds like you wouldn't be interested in that anyway. But I think your steady but considerate approach will pay off and you never know what the future may bring.O Solo Mamahttp://osolomama.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-36405187348515913362010-08-19T09:05:42.072-07:002010-08-19T09:05:42.072-07:00@Campbell, good. I can only say I hope that whate...@Campbell, good. I can only say I hope that whatever happens is something that will be positive for both of you. <br /><br />@I am, there are a lot more people out there that are the same way. While I don't always agree with someone, I do respect them and honesty is the only way to communicate effectively. The rest, just wind.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5210353425616744235.post-53851397085799949532010-08-19T08:27:33.304-07:002010-08-19T08:27:33.304-07:00Wow. I'm consistently impressed by how rare it...Wow. I'm consistently impressed by how rare it is to encounter a genuine devotion to honesty. I'm even more consistently surprised by how often you show your dedication to honesty, respect, and the call for them in return. You'd think I'd have learned by now, but it's still a pleasant surprise every time. I can't begin to understand what this enterprise is like, but thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing it.I amhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13182867182942654599noreply@blogger.com